When your baby sleeps, you get yourself back too

Honestly, I was a little hesitant at first. I wondered: “Will this really work?” Merve explaining every step, and especially telling us what to do on the nights we struggled, reassured me a lot. We were patient for a few nights, and after that our baby’s falling asleep became noticeably easier. Best of all, I never felt alone.

We knew every baby is different, but when it came to our own baby we just could not work out what was right. Instead of applying a ready-made formula, Merve first listened to us and to our baby. Of course not everything was fixed at once, but over time a routine settled in. Now, instead of stressing in the evening about “How will tonight go?”, we know what to do.

Honestly, before the first call I expected everything to be fixed by the next night. It wasn’t. But every day we saw a small change. First falling asleep got easier, then the night wakings decreased. What we valued most was understanding what was causing what along the way. Now we understand our baby’s needs much better.

I actually started the consultancy for my baby’s sleep, but by the end of the process I realised how exhausted I had been too. Getting up again and again at night and having no energy for anything the next day had become normal. Now our nights are much calmer. When I wake up in the morning, “How many times did she wake?” is no longer my only thought. Even that is a big change for me.

I actually started the consultancy for my baby’s sleep, but by the end of the process I realised how exhausted I had been too. Getting up again and again at night and having no energy for anything the next day had become normal. Now our nights are much calmer. When I wake up in the morning, “How many times did she wake?” is no longer my only thought. Even that is a big change for me.

I was especially wary of very strict methods. Hearing my baby cry and waiting without doing anything was not for me. Merve took that into account from the very beginning. She never pushed anything that did not suit us. Sometimes we changed the plan, sometimes we took a step back. That approach gave me a lot of confidence.

Our biggest problem was not so much our baby’s sleep as the fact that my partner and I always disagreed about what to do at night. One of us did one thing, the other something else. During the process we ended up with a clear plan we could both follow. Now we both know what to do. Even the tension at home has eased.

Honestly, I was a little hesitant at first. I wondered: “Will this really work?” Merve explaining every step, and especially telling us what to do on the nights we struggled, reassured me a lot. We were patient for a few nights, and after that our baby’s falling asleep became noticeably easier. Best of all, I never felt alone.

Honestly, before the first call I expected everything to be fixed by the next night. It wasn’t. But every day we saw a small change. First falling asleep got easier, then the night wakings decreased. What we valued most was understanding what was causing what along the way. Now we understand our baby’s needs much better.

After 7 in the evening the stress would start for me. Try to get the baby to sleep, wait for the next waking, put him down again… It was the hardest part of the day. Now, knowing what time our baby will go to bed and that I can rest through the night no longer makes me tense, even when I am tired during the day. I feel more patient and more gentle. I think that was what really brought me relief.

I was especially wary of very strict methods. Hearing my baby cry and waiting without doing anything was not for me. Merve took that into account from the very beginning. She never pushed anything that did not suit us. Sometimes we changed the plan, sometimes we took a step back. That approach gave me a lot of confidence.

I constantly felt as if I was doing something wrong. I kept thinking: “Did I let her sleep too much, too little, why won’t she sleep?” Together with Merve, I began to understand my baby’s needs better. Not everything is perfect, but I trust myself much more now.

After 7 in the evening the stress would start for me. Try to get the baby to sleep, wait for the next waking, put him down again… It was the hardest part of the day. Now, knowing what time our baby will go to bed and that I can rest through the night no longer makes me tense, even when I am tired during the day. I feel more patient and more gentle. I think that was what really brought me relief.

We had dreamed for a long time of both babies sleeping at the same time. While I was putting one down, the other would wake up, and then the other way round. What helped us most was building a routine we could actually follow so that both of them sleep at the same time. Even when they sometimes wake each other up, the fact that they go back to sleep without help is a miracle for us.

I constantly felt as if I was doing something wrong. I kept thinking: “Did I let her sleep too much, too little, why won’t she sleep?” Together with Merve, I began to understand my baby’s needs better. Not everything is perfect, but I trust myself much more now.